The garden teaches us endless lessons ~ one of them is how to let go of control.

For centuries in the world of gardening, there has been an ongoing debate as to whether humans control nature, nature is in charge of if humans and nature collaborate.

I personally think that Mother Nature is the source of wisdom. And if humans followed her lead, we would live a healthier, more peaceful life.

In my own urban rooftop veggie garden, my vines are growing wild. There was a time when I would have been out everyday vigilantly cutting back and securing them on the arbor.

Letting Go Of Control

Lablab purpureus -Hyacinth Bean Vine

No more.

When you need to be in control all of the time, you feel tense and a sense of urgency. You’re in the ‘gotta get it done’ mode.

That’s no way to live.

Letting go of control frees you up to live a more creative and joyful life.

Here are some tips I’ve learned over the years.

1. Listen to your body and thoughts. Are you tense? Are you experiencing some agitation/fear? Is your heart and thoughts racing?  Do you feel a sense of compulsion- that you must get everything done?

2. Ask your self the questions:

Do I really need to do this? What would happen if I didn’t do it and let it go?

3. Let it go. Even if you feel uneasy about not doing something, experiment. You can choose any behavior or thought.

4. Take note of how it feels to give up control. Continue to let go of some behaviors that you don’t really need to do.

Life can be much more beautiful when you allow yourself freedom to just ‘be and not always ‘do’.

** In the video, I didn’t mention one of my core beliefs about nature and humans. It’s this.  ‘It’s in humankind’s best interest to mimic nature. We should follow the wisdom of her and look to indigenous people who have been listening to her for thousands of years.

NOW IT’S YOUR TURN. Share strategies and behaviors in your life where you’ve learned to give up control ~

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